The Door That Waits!!

When I was a child, my mother shared with me a lesson as tender as a lullaby, yet as lasting as time itself— “Never close the door immediately after someone steps out.”

At that age, I didn’t question it. I just followed her words, the way children do, believing in the quiet wisdom of their mothers.

Years passed. I grew up, forgot many lessons, but not this one. Even now, when someone leaves, I pause. I watch as they walk away, waiting until they are far enough before gently shutting the door—softly, so softly that the sound never reaches their ears.

Some goodbyes are easy, like closing a door behind a guest who will return. But some goodbyes carry a weight that stays. There are people we wish we could hold on to for just a little longer, people who leave behind echoes in the spaces they once filled. Yet time, relentless as ever, pulls them away from us. And so, we let go.

Even then, in those moments of parting, I still wait. Not to stop them—because some departures are unavoidable—but to see if they turn back, if their eyes hold a quiet yearning, a whisper of “Stay a little longer.!!”

And on those days, I don’t close the door at all. I simply stand there, watching them walk away, carrying with them a piece of my world!! Cheers!!

realization!!

Some people take the softest souls and make it hard rock. They push and push, testing limits, mistaking kindness for weakness. And when that sweetness turns bitter—when the hurt finally speaks—they call it crazy, call it toxic. They point fingers, forgetting they were the ones who lit the fire.

But here’s the reality: Every reaction has a root. Every flame starts with a spark. You can’t blame someone for defending what’s left of themselves, for refusing to be disrespected any longer. Sometimes, breaking is the only way to survive.

I used to think that love was about giving everything you have. So I gave it all—I showed up, I stayed late, I listened, I poured every part of me into something I thought would last. I believed that love meant holding nothing back, that if I just tried harder, stayed longer, maybe love would stay too. But love isn’t about exhausting myself to keep something alive. It isn’t about proving your worth or sacrificing and break into pieces, just to be enough.

Love is about growing together, and I was so busy trying to make it work that I didn’t see how I was falling apart. I convinced myself that I had to hold on tighter, that letting go meant failing. But the truth is, love isn’t a debt to be repaid or a battle to be won. It’s not something we can possess or force to stay. Love is more like laughter, like sunlight—beautiful in its existence, even if it fades.

So now, I don’t hold on so tightly. I give what I have, but I no longer beg love to stay. And if it leaves, then it was never mine to keep. Love should be a mutual journey of nurturing, understanding, and supporting each other. It should make you feel safe and valued, not empty and exhausted. Understanding this situation can lead to much deeper, more genuine relationship where both partners thrive and sing “I was also Enchanted to meet you too”. Cheers!!

Rebuilding Trust!!

If you betray someone’s trust, you have no right to question their actions. You don’t get to decide how long they take to heal or how they should react. The fact that they are still there means they care, and it takes incredible strength to face the person who hurt them every single day.

They are not just hurt—they are grieving. Grieving the version of you they once believed in. They never thought you were capable of this, and now, no matter how much they love you, they no longer feel safe.

They want to forgive because they want this relationship to work, but that doesn’t mean they will forget. Now, they are stuck in a loop, wondering why you did it—whether they weren’t enough, or if somehow they pushed you to do it.

But here’s the truth: they are not obsessing over your flaws. What may have been a moment of gratification for you was destruction for them. Now, they are constantly on edge, analyzing every move, questioning your intentions, searching for reassurance—reassurance that might never come.

Their emotions are unpredictable. The memory of what you did lingers, making them more reactive than they want to be. No one enjoys arguing. No one enjoys bringing up the past. But when the pain resurfaces, all they want is to be understood. They want validation. They want proof that it won’t happen again.

If you truly value this connection, rebuilding trust is your responsibility. It takes patience. It takes consistency. And sometimes, you’ll have to sit with their emotions even when it’s uncomfortable. You cannot shift the blame onto them. You cannot ask why they are still hurt.

The only way they will truly move on is if you put in the effort to help them heal. And here’s the most important part—words aren’t enough.

You must take real action.

You must avoid the behavior that broke them in the first place.

You must reassure them, again and again, that it won’t happen again.

Because whenever you repeat the same mistake, you’re not just making an error—you’re reopening a wound they’re still trying to heal. Every repeated action pulls them back to square one, making them wonder if trusting you again was a mistake.

If you’re serious about making things right, remember this: they don’t owe you another chance. But if they give you one, don’t waste it.

Trust is like glass—once shattered, it may never look the same again. But if you’re willing to pick up the pieces, handle them with care, and never let them break again, maybe—just maybe—you can rebuild something even stronger. Cheers!!

Unfulfilled Desires!!

Ah, dear one, when a heart’s wish is left unfulfilled, it trembles with sorrow and burns with anger. The mind rushes to find blame, and the one it sees as the cause becomes the bearer of its wrath. We think, ‘'This pain is because of them; let them feel the weight of my suffering.'‘ But tell me, beloved, is every unfulfilled wish truly the doing of another?

Many desires remain incomplete—not always by the reason of another person, but by the unseen dance of destiny, by the tides of time, or simply because some wishes are not meant to be. If, without understanding another’s heart, we decide they are the cause of our sorrow, is that truth, or is it merely the whisper of revenge?

Truth, my beloved, is woven with kindness and tenderness, while revenge feeds on anger and pride.

So, if your heart does not first bathe in kindness before passing judgment, is that not itself a greater injustice? Tell me, dear one, will you hold another in blame, or will you let your heart bloom in the grace of understanding? Close your eyes, listen within, and you shall find the answer—truth is never born from anger, but from the love. Hare Krishna!!

The truth!!

Ah, beloved soul, there comes a moment in every heart’s journey when truth longs to be spoken, yet the lips hesitate, trembling like a leaf in the breeze.

A gentle fear wraps itself around the mind—whether it is revealing a moment, expressing a thought, or admitting a mistake. The heart falters, caught in the web of doubt. We wonder, will our words bring understanding or hurt? Will they heal or wound? And so, we choose silence, believing it to be the safer path.

But tell me, dear one, is this truly the essence of truth?

No.

What we call truth is often but a mere fact—a reflection of what has been, spoken as it is.

Such a simple thing, and yet, even this can stir hesitation within. Why? Because we fear that our words may ripple across another’s heart, causing sorrow. This fear holds back our voice like a river bound by its banks, afraid to flow freely.

So, what then is true truth? Have we ever truly paused to embrace its meaning?

When a soul, despite the weight of uncertainty, chooses to speak, it does not just utter words—it embraces courage, it welcomes freedom. Truth is not just about speaking facts but doing so with love, with compassion, with the intent to uplift rather than wound. For in truth, dear heart, fearlessness and truth are but two names of the same divine song. And tell me, does courage wait for the right moment, or does it shine in all moments, like the eternal light of the stars?

So, will you choose to welcome truth with love and grace at every step? Will you allow your words to be both honest and kind, both fearless and gentle?

Close your eyes, let your heart listen, and you shall find—the answer already rests within you, waiting to be embraced. Hare Krishna!!

expectation!!

Ah, dear soul, the essence of all human relationships seems to rest upon expectation.

What kind of husband should he be to fill my heart with love and comfort? What kind of wife should she be, always devoted, always tender in her care? What kind of children should they be, gentle, obedient, and ever reverent?

And so, the heart clings to those who fulfill its longings, who mirror its deepest desires.

But tell me, beloved, is expectation not like a fleeting shadow on still waters—always near, yet never truly grasped? It is born within the quiet chambers of the mind, yet the other remains unaware. Even with the sincerest heart, can one ever truly fulfill what has never been spoken?

From this silent yearning, conflict takes root, and soon, relationships, once woven with love, become tangled in sorrow.

But if, instead of expectation, we embrace acceptance, if we cherish love as it is rather than as we wish it to be, would not life bloom with boundless joy and serenity? Close your eyes, dear one, and listen—does your heart not whisper that this is the path to true peace? Hare Krishna!!

what is Fear??!!

Ah, dear heart, within you lies a vast kingdom of fear, ever-changing like the waves of the ocean. Sometimes, you fear losing what you cherish; other times, you tremble at the thought of disgrace or the pain of separation. Slowly, fear becomes a familiar companion, and we begin to believe it is an unshakable truth of life.

But have you ever sat in stillness and listened to the whispers of your soul? The very places where fear takes root are the same places where sadness lingers. Yet, tell me, who has bound fear and sorrow together? Are they not but illusions we hold close? As long as we embrace fear, sadness will never loosen its grip. Fear, my beloved, is but a shadow of the mind, an illusion of future sorrow that does not truly exist.

If we awaken to the truth that fear is only a creation of our thoughts, is it truly so difficult to break free and step into the light of fearlessness? Think about this, dear one, for when the heart lets go of fear, it finds the path to boundless joy and serenity. True freedom lies not in escaping fear but in understanding it, embracing courage, and trusting the divine rhythm of life. Let your heart be light, for you are meant to walk in love, not in fear. Hare Krishna!!

taking the decision!!

Ah, dear loved one, in the journey of life, we often turn to others for guidance, letting their voices shape our choices. But tell me, if the seeds of our future are planted in the soil of today’s decisions, should we not tend to them with our own hands? Are our choices truly ours, or merely echoes of another’s wisdom? Have you ever sat in stillness and pondered this?

Just as the same river appears different to the thirsty traveler and the playful child, so too do hearts perceive moments in their own way. A devotee, filled with love, places an offering in the temple’s donation box, while a thief watches with longing eyes. A heart filled with purity finds its way to light, while one clouded by desire may stumble into shadows.

True joy blossoms from wisdom that flows from a heart filled with sincerity and devotion. To receive such wisdom, we must bring harmony between our inner and outer selves. So, before allowing the world’s voices to lead us, should we not first cleanse our own hearts, so that our choices are born of truth and love make us happy? Sit with this thought, my dear, and let your heart whisper the answer to you. Hare Krishna!!

Decision time!!

Dear one, life is a beautiful dance of choices. With every step, we shape our path, and each decision leaves its gentle fragrance on time.

The choices we make today weave the joy or sorrow of tomorrow—not just for ourselves but for those we love and those yet to come. When challenges arise, our hearts may tremble with doubt. In those moments, choosing our way forward can feel like stepping into a storm, where emotions swirl like restless winds. But tell me, dear soul, can one truly taste the sweetness of fruit while running? Obviously the answer is a big NO, for its flavor is best enjoyed in stillness.

So, can a restless heart truly find the right path? What do you feel?

When we feel peace within and make choices from a calm heart, a future full of harmony unfolds. But when decisions are made in haste, merely to quiet the storm inside, they plant the seeds of sorrow yet to bloom. Is this not so? Do not simply hear my words—let them rest in your heart, and discover the truth within yourself. Hare Krishna!!

Independence in Relationships!!

Ah, dear soul, when two hearts unite, they often weave invisible boundaries, thinking they protect their love. But tell me, have you ever wondered about these walls we build? If we look closely at our relationships, we see how these limitations arise from our own fears and insecurities. And when someone, without knowing, steps beyond these lines, our hearts tremble with anger. But what is the essence of these boundaries? Have you ever paused to think about this?

When we impose such limits, we leave no space for the other soul to breathe and dance freely. We become entangled in our own rigidness, forgetting the beauty of independence that each heart craves. And when we deny another's freedom, their heart feels the weight of sadness, and when they break these walls, our hearts ignite with frustration. Is it not so?

But, my beloved, if we learn to cherish and honor each other's independence, what purpose do these walls serve? If acceptance is the foundation upon which love stands, then is not independence the soul that breathes life into it? So, close your eyes, feel the whisper of this truth in your heart, and let your heart embrace this truth. Hare Krishna!!